My life as a SAHM (Stay-At-Home-Mom)
By Danielle Pieszak — 7/29/2008 9:34pm PST

Before we even decided to get pregnant, Ryan and I discussed me being a SAHM. I loved the idea. I had worked as an Infant Teacher for a little while at Doodlebugs, so I knew a little about how to take care of a baby. I also spent some time around my nephew Joseph, watching his mom read his cues and give him all the things he needed. So I had an idea of what it would be like, but I never imagined how hard it would be! Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't trade my job for any in the world (ok, some days I may consider it, lol) but I have a whole new respect for SAHM's. It's not as easy as it looks!

A few days after we brought Connor home from the hospital, PPD (post-partum depression) kicked in and I was a completely different person. I didn't want to eat, couldn't sleep, and could barely take care of myself let alone a brand new baby! I was terrified of staying home with this child I barely knew. Would I know what to do if he cried? Would I have the confidence to take him out in public by myself? With a fantastic doctor (Dr. Lynne Bissonnette), the patience of my loving husband, and support from both families, I can honestly say I'm starting to feel like my old self. It took a very long time, but I'm back, and almost better than ever.

So my days are filled with lots of diapers, laundry, cleaning, feeding Connor, sometimes feeding myself lol, and everything in between. I love it. I've had a hard time with a few things though. I feel like I don't contribute financially (even though Ryan says I am, and that Connor's happiness is contributing) and am lonely sometimes. As long as I keep myself busy I'm okay. I think the hardest thing I've had to learn was that things couldn't be done my way anymore. I couldn't tell Connor when to sleep (I wish I was "The Baby Whisperer" lol), or when to eat. I'm on Connor time now! I like things done a certain way at a certain time, and that's just not possible with a baby anymore. Neither are movie nights, dates or romantic dinners, but I would rather spend this time with my family. In a certain advertiser's words, family time is "priceless".

I have met some wonderful people along the way, and they have become my friends. We do playdates, swimming, the zoo, mom's night out and parks. So not only am I getting Connor familiar with his surroundings and other babies, but I'm benefiting too by making friends. It's nice to be able to talk to another mom about what their child is up to, and ask a question if I need to. We're all going through it together! I'm still in my PPD group as well, and it's nice to talk about my feelings and encourage other moms (the group leader wants me to become a "phone volunteer" to help other moms!) Being a Mom is the best feeling in the world, and I can't wait to do more with Connor! I'm blessed to be able to stay home with him all day and I'm so thankful for my husband!

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